banged the door and left.

Roma asked her husband ”What dinner should we make for you tonight

“What the hell do you mean by asking such question, make what ever you want but I wont like to eat those tasteless stuff 

It is often a day to day affair when husband cries and looses his temper by asking where are his under garments, socks, and some times when the food is excessive salty or no salt or for any other reason rages at full volume and leaves for office.

But it is also a normal feature that with in an hour he forgets anger and  his wife too.Iin the evening he comes home, hugs her wife, few smacks. They make a programme for outing or dinner in a cuisine restaurant. It means men or women are not naturally a querrel liking persons and wants life’s enjoyment and share love with each other. There are so many causes in our society, which spoils their behaviour pattern.Hindi Morning News Paper is also one of the reason,worst news on every page,even sports page. The rushing to office and coming back to sweet home, has also become risky and lots of polutions- noise,fuel, gases and traffic hazards makes every one irritant and angry.

You will find two boys boxing on road, or school or in any public place, slapping or abusing each other, but an hour is enough for them to forget and enjoy.

It is observed that the behavior, and if it is quarrel between husband and wife, makes them, a good fighter, quarrel or their personality becomes shattered, which reflect in school.

A Class teacher called parents of one of the student who was notorious for his bad behaviors and mannersShe complained and with in 10 minutes, she came to know the reason of the student’s behavior. His  parents were quarrelling and leveling false or true allegations  on each other with loud voice. Obviously homely atmosphere made that boy sick,arrogant,unhappy and mentally disturbed.

Anger is the most commonly experienced emotion and it affects our body and mind adversely. Our heart rate increases and blood pressure shoots up- and comes into action, and then body hormones like adrenalin and non-adrenalin

Overwhelming medical evidence shows that anger, whether expressed or held in, makes you ill. Angry people have higher high rate of death from nearly every cause. They are more isolated and unsuccessful. Their relationship is marked by conflict, withdrawal and loss. Anger can range from mild irritation to rage.

Rage is a kind of temporary insanity.  None of us can thing or act effectively if we are angry. Yes anger is a perfectly normal human emotion. It is an adaptive survival response to threats and dangers that helps us to defend ourselves. It becomes inappropriate, prolonged ,excessive or out of control.

So now we have to analyze anger in the following queries:

Firstly.Whether anger  is harmful:- It is not always harmful, rather defends us from allowing other people to manipulate or dominate us. Side by side it also motivates us to take action against the errant individuals.

Secondly, I have seen many people who do not loose anger and keeps their anger in themselves. This continues for years, causing them High BP, Diabetes or even Heart Problems.

When one person releases his anger in full volume, not as a daily practice, but when most desired, releases all his mind, and feel relieved. My Niece a Doctor when came to my house with her mother(my sister) once said, which I still remember. Her remark was for husbands, that they better loose their temper on his wife or any dear one and forget everything,instead of hating them deeply.

Let us examine why one is so arrogant in behavior. It is always clear in the case of husband wife relations. Both do loose anger on each other and the simple reason is that they expects from their spouse unexpected demands/or high expectation of love and caring,sometimes more, which is not feasible to respond. Later they do agree, when used to talk in cool manner. But, as I have said earlier, that man wants delicious breakfast, Lunch in office and nicely made dinner by his lovely wife.

But she must understand that she is not making meal for only herself but for his husband. If she had made delicious food according to her thoughts, but her hubby does not like that preparation, will loose temper

Sometimes i dont know why wives used to say a big No to their husbands, if it is for outing,long drive,provide her medicine, helping in kitchen or any desired, they deny. This causes a never ending hatred feelings. And one day comes when  that man ignores at everystep herwife, not even asking her how she is?Because he is afraid of her high temper or big No.This leads him to move out to market, or late coming after work, or drinking and drug addict and so on.

This struggle starts most of the time when husband is non veg and wife is veg Brahmin family born lady. This leads men to move in the market to eat and avoid home meal preparations. Sex hunger is also demanding in the same manner. This mainly leads anger, slapping and finally deep rooted hatred towards each other.

One of the best solution is to talk with her in cool atmosphere what she wants and assure her that you love her too much and caring.

But many a time when rag is quite obvious and you dont know how to control your outburst,better
to loose your temper and forget with in few minutes. But let the other person feel that you are right. Even if you are not, she will come forward to clarify your misunderstanding. This will leave you relieved from not only tension but physical ailments in future.